Greetings! The name is Time Lizzy, or Time as my friends call me. They/Them pronouns. I love to try new things, draw, sing, dance, garden, and I do some witchcraft in my free time. I'm a Hetalia role playing partner if you guys are interested.
this year, don’t be afraid to be yourself. grow fangs!!! unfurl your wings!!!! vaporize unsuspecting mortal souls with your eldritch presence!!!!! stand on the rooftop and shriek at the heavens until god himself comes down to tell you to stop!!!!!!!!!!!
here’s the deal. everyone has lied to you, like your biology teacher. the options that your body has in the event of danger are not “fight or flight” they are “fight or flight OR FREEZE!”
Freeze means exactly what it sounds like – you freeze, you often dissociate, even if part of you is saying ‘move, do something, say something’ you are frozen! it is an involuntary, self defense, play dead type of reaction left over from when we were trying not to be eaten by tigers or whatever. it’s also a way for your body to take stock of the danger and figure out wtf is happening and wtf to do.
Animals do it all the time. if you see a video of a lion chasing a gazelle and the gazelle suddenly stops running and falls down and just lays there, it is frozen! it is frozen bc it’s nervous system has decided this is the thing that is most likely help it to survive
So if you were in a situation where you were in danger, like if someone was hurting or assaulting you, and you just froze and couldn’t move or fight back? That’s why. It’s not your fault. It’s involuntary. you are not to blame for what happened. 💜
A fourth stress response exists even, the “fawn” response. This is a dog rolling over and showing its belly to a threat – submissive, subservient behavior aimed at convincing the threat that you’re not a challenge to their dominance and that they should not kill you because they’ll benefit more from keeping you alive to serve them (some species may not have this one, but humans definitely do – “nervous laughter” is another example of the fawn response kicking in when a person’s under stress, these don’t only apply when you’re in a literal immediate life-or-death situation but the greater the perceived danger the stronger and less consciously-overridable the stress response is).
So if you’ve been in a situation where you were in danger, and found yourself complying with your attacker, going along with things you didn’t want to go along with, and afterwards you wonder what’s wrong with you that you just went along with it? That also doesn’t mean it’s your fault or that you deserved it, or that you’re weak or cowardly or whatever. You had an instinctive stress response kick in and override your usual conscious determining of what to do. It’s VERY hard to break out of that state by will alone in an actual survival situation, next to impossible unless you’ve actually been trained at it (and I mean intentionallytrained to not hit adrenaline overdrive and thus retain your usual rational response ability; too much adrenaline literally shuts down your higher reasoning temporarily and forces you into an instinctive mode where you don’t get to consciously pick which stress response gets used to keep you alive – also it’s possible to end up cycling through a few of them in any order if your first one doesn’t reduce the perceived threat to survival).
How You Interact: Being Friends with Magnificent Marvin
– Expect alot of late night or early morning calls from an excited magician, most likely after he successfully pulls off a new trick/spell.
– You star in any show he preforms. Constantly giving him reassurance that he is doing well.
– Marvin is always more confident with you around. Knowing that a friendly voice and careful eyes are watching over his tricks, helps him not mess up more.
– You are the only one he trusts to take off his mask with. And when you’re out in public, sometimes he’ll place cloak around your shoulders.
– Laughing when you start running around and saying you’re a superhero with your new cape.
– If you can’t sleep, Marvin is always usually awake late at night, and answers every one of your calls. He’ll talk to you until you fall asleep, or invite you over so you can help him work. Very rarely he’ll use a spell to help you sleep.
– Sometimes you do end up falling asleep in his study, and, if he can, Marvin will carry you to his bed. Or sleep walk you into his room.
– Jackaboyman loves to tease Marvin about how you two act very close.
– Which Chase sometimes takes as a hint to try and get you two together. But you explain that it was strictly platonic between you and Marvin. Which the magician agrees.
– The other egos don’t enjoy the prank wars you two declare. Whether it’s on each other or the others, no matter what the Septics get roped into it.
– You and Marvin rival Anti with your pranks. It helps to have a magician on your team. You picked up a few tricks from Marvin, and he comes to you with new ideas.
– Which always ends up with Anti going too far and almost seriously hurting you. Marvin once lost his temper with Anti after you were scared into tears from a prank.
– Anti had been shrunk and trapped in a jar. With a twig and a leaf to sit on the kitchen counter until Anti relunctantly apologized.
– Only because Marvin managed to convince Robbie that the little Anti needed to be carried around. And Rob had almost dropped hia jar five times before Anti shrieked out a sorry.
– Marvin is very supportive. Always offering reassurance or suggestions. A shoulder to cry on and you do the same. He’s the type of friend to drop by with food and stay up late discussing many topics.
(This wasn’t requested but I haven’t been writing alot, so these dot point fics are a little easier to write. Enjoy!)
1. Crazy 2. I’d marry you 3. I’d date you 4. Sarcastic 5. I miss you 6. I’d kiss you 7. Beautiful 8. Smart 9. Imaginative 10. Random 11. Jerk 12. Funny 13. Awesome 14. Amazing 15. Tough 16. Cute 17. I’d hit you with a bus 18. I love you 19. Weird 20. Friends forever 21. Marry me 22. You’re mine 23. I never want to lose you
I’ve seen so many of these posts for trans boys but never for the lovely ladies, so here are some tips to feel a bit more feminine if you’re not out
Glossy chapstick, if asked about it say you just have chapped lips and it works well, or if you want a tint and can stand it, those cheap Pepsi/cola chapstick make your lips looks red [you can make them very red or less depending on how much you use]
If your family isn’t to judgey you could wear foundation or just buy it for yourself and say you’re embarrassed about acne or a scar or something,
If you’re more into emo/goth culture thats a good excuse to grow out your hair/wear makeup
You could wear panties under your boxers and just do your own laundry, and buy a feminine outfit you can wear when by yourself, and/or girly sleeping clothes
You can get yourself a pink hello kitty shirt or pink backpack or something like little girls would wear and say you got it to be ironic
If you’ve got a close friend you could get matching rings/necklaces/bracelets and say it’s for friendship or a cute girl/boy made you a bracelet in class and it makes you happy to wear it [or lie about having a close friend and just wear the jewelry]
Spandex. Like the thing to hide your tummy? It accents curves real nice and you can wear it under so many things, or if you can’t do that cuz you’ll get found out get long underwear, like the long black shirt and pants you wear in winter? They work amazing too
Get your ears periced if you can
Write your self a message on you’re phone, using the correct pronouns, or get your backround to “you go, girl!” Or something like that and just say irony/ it was a friends prank and you wanna keep it/ it just empowers you Nd u couldn’t find a “you go, boy!”
Change your blog to be a bit more ‘girly’ and make ur videogame characters girls and use your preferred name!! You can just say its supposed to be a random person or a celebrity really of you want
And get yourself a notebook and write about yourself in like third person using your preferred name and pronouns and if found just say your writing a story or it’s for school
Wear longer socks that cover your calf cause they cover your legs if you can’t shave them
Shave your legs if you can, if not your arms and armpits [just say you sweat a lot and that would help ]
Wear girls deordeant if you can
Use lotion. Sounds simple but rlly, mosteruise after you shower, soft skin and plus thats thought of a more feminine activity, plus u can get you some really nice smelling stuff and just says it works well or you didn’t realize it was that strong when you got it or didn’t realise it would smell like that at all
Pinching your cheeks makes them a bit blushy [not for that long] but you could do it when meeting people and such
Get a cute stuffed animal for your bed and just say its from a girl/boy you like or irony
Blow dry your hair instead of towel dry, it makes your hair fluffy and soft
Use girls shampoo or body wash
Wear light colors
Wear tighter clothes or floral things
And remember you are a girl whether you’re out or not or if people believe you
[Feel free to add on and if you have questions or anything, just message me, lovelies!! ♡]
These obviously won’t work for everyone, but maybe this can help someone. No matter what just remember, just bc you may not do more feminine things doesn’t make you any less a woman. As a female myself I wear guys deoderant bc it smells wondeful and buy guys clothes bc they’re super comfy. Whatever you feel your gender is, is your gender no matter what you do and I hope everyone can love you for who you really are ❤
