Greetings! The name is Time Lizzy, or Time as my friends call me. They/Them pronouns. I love to try new things, draw, sing, dance, garden, and I do some witchcraft in my free time. I'm a Hetalia role playing partner if you guys are interested.
reblog this and i’ll ask you the first question that comes to mind when i go to your blog 😀
still doing this, and have done it for everyone so far!
it’s November 2017, I originally made this in May 2013. I sent over 15,000 asks with this post. Many blogs were deactivated, didn’t have asks enabled, didn’t understand an ask limit exists, were confused when I finally got to them months later, or would reply upset at me.
REGARDLESS, I have decided to continue on with this. I don’t know if it’s a good decision but… I’ll give it a shot. So go for it. I’ll send some more asks.
I was gonna make a “remember when captain america punched harley quinn in the face” post before realising that margot robbie and jaime pressly are not actually the same person despite the evidence that they most definitely are
I mean???
they are literally the same person???
for years I’ve believed there was only one of them????
Ways men opt out of housework and childcare by “helping out”:
take on weekly or monthly tasks, and think it’s equal to their wives’ daily tasks (even when wives also have weekly and monthly tasks)
take on tasks that require very little time or hard labor, like mowing the lawn
take on a “project” that could be fixed by a professional, and work on it little by little but never really finish
create chores for their children, i.e. delegate rather than doing
do housework only in tandem, i.e. never on their own or without help.
volunteer on their own for some disliked task. For example, cleaning the toilets without asking. Unfortunately, this tends to be seen as very loving and exceptional. Often it will be used as an excuse not to do anything else.
enthusiastically volunteer to do things often, then conveniently “forget,” “make plans,” or have some sort of weird parameter to get started. When wife or child does it instead, claim they were going to do it, really!
pick a jurisdiction they already enjoy, like “take care of dog” or “the yard”
do something really badly, so that someone else has to do it for them anyway afterwards
“tidy up” a mess they made
pick up or organize clutter, however the often stressful, emotional, and time-consuming task of de-cluttering is left undone or for someone else
meticulously keep clean a space that is only theirs, i.e. their study, their garage
create tasks that aren’t needed, like “organize the toolbox” or “rearrange the bookshelf”
do tasks that require prep work that their wives will do for them (i.e. grilling the food, but not planning, purchasing, seasoning or preparing the sides)
take control of “finances” but do very little, perhaps the taxes. This is also often used as a way to control their wives.
use their time with their children to play or dole out discipline/lessons, but very little time on feeding/bathing/dressing or organizing their lives. This is also a way men can create a “fun parent/mean parent” dynamic.
make lists of what needs to get done, discuss what needs to get done with their wives, act very invested in the housework, take on a “manager” role in the housework, but do very little of it
tell wives that what little is done in the house, by either of them, is “enough” and that he “doesn’t care” what the house looks like (this is a l i e). i.e. doing little and then making an emotional appeal that it’s fine, co-opting the emotional labor his wife does for him, but actually it’s very manipulative.
getting involved with children’s after-school activities, i.e. being a coach, organizing a concert, etc. Often a thing he already enjoys. Often does very little of the organizing/plan making. Often makes little effort to create time for his wife’s personal interests.
Pay attention to the actions of your fathers, brothers, uncles, grandfathers, boyfriends, husbands. You’ll start to see these constantly.
