stop-stalin-and-suck-my-dick:

anonymous-for-the-children:

titenoute:

hiddlesherethereeverywhere:

pr1nceshawn:

Tips That Can Save Your Kid’s Life.

THIS IS IMPORTANT 

When I was a child, from the time I was about four and could understand things, my mom told me and my brother that we should have a secret word. That way, if we were ever in trouble or felt unsafe and we didn’t want the people around us to know we needed her to come get us, we could let her know. So she let us pick the word and my brother and I chose the phrase “peanut butter cups.” (I’m happy to share the phrase now since both my brother and I are adults now). 

I used the phrase twice in my life. Once, I was at a friends house when I eight years old. Her dad got really drunk and was throwing things against the wall. I was really scared and I didn’t want to draw attention to myself on the phone when I called my mom to come get me because I didn’t know if he would get more violent if I asked her to come get me. So I called her and was calm and after a couple minutes I asked “Hey mommy, did you get me those peanut butter cups from the store?” And she said “I’ll be right there.” And she came and got me within minutes. 

Second, I was a teenager spending the night at a friends house. Her brother and dad were drinking and they started talking about things that made me uncomfortable – ie: what they liked to do to women. My friend didn’t seem perturbed and said that was normal for them and that I shouldn’t worry. But I was worried because they were really drunk and I was 15 and the only ‘woman’ around that wasn’t related to them. I went in my friends room, told her I needed to call my mom and say goodnight. Before I hung up with her I asked “Next time we go to the store, can we get some peanut butters cups? I’ve been craving them.” And she came and got me, just like that. 

Two incidents, one as a young child, one years later as a teen. Don’t discredit this stuff, it fucking works. My brother used it a few times too. Let your child pick the word and no never, ever, ever, ever get mad at them for using it no matter what it is. 

DO NOT SCROLL PAST THAT.

The only thing I would change is the idea that you can trust a mother with children.

If you can trust a mother with children, you can trust a father with children.

At the moment here in the UK, the amount of reports of mothers abusing their children, or female teachers abusing their students has sky rocketed, and is being described as an epidemic.

Females are not automatically excused form having harmful paedophilic feelings and actions.

I was going to type that last bit!!! Thank you

deviancy-wasteland:

I love fics with the whole truth or dare scenario, but not like the really typical ones where it’s like, “oh so who do you love??” or “I dare you to go fuck so-and-so”, and if that’s your tea then you’re valid but like…
Give me those weirdass off the wall dares, like “I dare you to eat this entire tube of toothpaste” or “you have to balance this bottle of vodka on top of your head for the next hour and if it falls you’re legally required to do my dishes for a week” or “you can now only speak in quotes from (some obscure movie or tv show) for the next 24 hours, good luck” like???? give me wholesome dares where everybody is having a fun time???? give me wholesome truths where they’re just really weird??? “hey so what’s your opinion on so-and-so’s new haircut?” “it’s really fucking awful” “I knew it!” ??? give them to me im ready to sell my soul

Social Anxiety test. Scores in the 41 – 50 range indicate Severe Social Anxiety.

kayetheratchild:

pajama-phil:

lofisapphic:

sylviajunebug98:

kunaigirl:

kichik:

nitwitt:

44.

Welp. That helps explain the panic attacks.

20. Scores in the 0 – 20 range indicate No Social Anxiety

Honestly not surprised. XD

I got “Moderate anxiety” (score 37) that actually sounds about right honestly. 

I got 52 ajdhsbsy

FUCKFKDKSFJDKF 46 SEVERE SOCIAL ANXIETY FUCK

48. Welp.

49 hhh

Social Anxiety test. Scores in the 41 – 50 range indicate Severe Social Anxiety.

totalspiffage:

My therapist suggested replacing “is there anything I can do” with “what do you need” when comforting someone as the first kind of assumes you as part of the equation in helping someone which isn’t always helpful. It also kind of pressures the person suffering to kind of come up with something FOR you to do. Like I get so frustrated with that first question as a person who gets it a lot.

The second not only takes the pressure off but also might help the person really consider what their actual needs are like hey I haven’t eaten, maybe that’s a reason I feel crappy. It kinda takes the asker out of the immediate picture so the person struggling can focus on what they actually need, and then if you CAN help, you can offer it.

We’ll see if this works better!