one of the ways i know this culture has a massive issue with consent
is the sheer amount of people I’ve known that just lie & tell people they’re deathly allergic to foods they dislike
because otherwise people will hound them, mock them, coax them, harass them, try to force them to eat it, or even trick them into eating it, and they will never hear the end of it
your coworkers will bake it into a fucking pie, call it something else, and wait til your birthday, gather everyone and their first cousins to sit around in a circle waiting for you to put a forkful into your mouth and then point rhythmically at you in a chanting, glaring, sweating, unholy circle like SWISS CHARD SWISS CHARD YOU JUST ATE SWISS CHARD HA HA HA SWISS CHARD NOW YOU LIKE SWISS CHARD
Because forcing someone into a situation where they don’t feel safe declining putting something into their body they’d rather not be there is totes 100% wholesome American fun
And this is something so known that it’s infinitely easier to just lie and tell people that you’ll die if you eat that food…which actually doesn’t always stop it from happening
Oh fuuuuuuuuuuuu
My grandmother hated mushrooms. She gagged at the taste, as people found out when they tried to trick her into eating them, so she started saying she was allergic, and the long and the short of it is my dad lived to be an adult without knowing that he wasnt actually allergic to mushrooms. My mom didnt believe that he was allergic, so she made a dish with mushroom and didnt tell him until after he had eaten it and, having never eaten them because he thought he was allergic, didnt recognize that they were there. She then gloated about how she knew he was lying, to which he explained that, no, he wasnt lying, he had genuinely believed that he was very allergic and she very well could have killed him.
In short, fucking listen when someone tells you no !!!!
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