When you meet your soulmate, you grow your own unique, fantastical body part (hooves, antlers, feathers, etc). At that point, no one (including you) can see it. But once you and your soulmate gain a mutual interest, everyone’s- and your own- wondrous quirks become visible to you. You have finally been able to see your (insert peculiarity). But you don’t know how you got them, because your SM has an incredibly discreet one that you simply have never noticed.